Anger Management
“It’s like a red mist descends and then I go somewhere I can’t seem to get away from”
What is anger?
It is a natural emotional response which has evolved to help us cope with:
- Threat
- Hurt
- Violation
- Frustration
We all feel angry at certain times in our lives, many people are frightened to express their anger, they don’t want to be seen as someone with an anger problem. We can also feel angry on behalf of someone else. There are many different styles of anger.
Anger is a really good emotion but needs to follow specific rules to be effective and not be harmful, it can help warn us about things that may hurt us, it motivates us to make a change, it gives us the energy to deal with potentially threatening situations, anger gives us momentum.
Anger can be directed outwards or inwards towards ourselves. Anger can be expressed in the wrong way outwards but can cause a real issue when we don’t express it and it is repressed.
You may also need some help and guidance if you live with or are close to someone with anger problems.
What are the symptoms of anger issues? – these include but are not limited to:
- Tunnel vision
- Short panting breaths
- A tight feeling in your chest
- Stomach churning
- Increased heartbeat
- Sweating
- Feeling hot
- An overall tenseness
- Restlessness
When should I be concerned?
You should seek help when you anger:
Causes breakdowns in relationships
Causes issues in work
You have been arrested
You hurt the ones you love and care